« on: Thursday 25 October 07 00:15 BST (UK) »
Hello
I was wondering if anyone had any thoughts on the following...
I have found somebody whom I know to be my 1st cousin once removed and would like to contact him, partly because he's family, but also because he is very likely to have much more information about some of my ancestors than I do.
Thing is, while he descends from our common ancestor (my great-grandfather, his grandfather) legitimately, I descend illegitimately. Given the dim view of illegitimacy in the early 20th century, I can imagine that my cousin's family were never told that their grandfather had fathered a child with another woman before he married their grandmother. So any letter I send might be the first he's heard of it and could shatter his image of his grandfather.
Does anyone have any advice on how to go about contacting a relative in these circumstances? Any advice would be very gratefully received.
Thanks
Martin
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