Hi Jen,
Thank you very much for your interest in my 'head banger'. I had checked the 1901 census and as you say there was an Eleanor married to Thomas Bulmer with two children. As Eleanor's age was 37yrs and the address being different to the one on the birth certificate, plus the fact that Charles Frederick Schellenberg was only in his early twenties, I tended to disregard it, however the more I think about it the more I am beginning to think that there could well be a connection here and they had an illicit relationship. I have already checked the 1837 for a possible marriage/death for a Charles Frederick Bulmer/Schellenberg, but of course with very little else to go on it is proving rather a costly exercise and I end up getting know where fast.
To complicate the issue even further, there is every chance that Charles Frederick Snr. could well have changed his name from Schellenberg at some time, owing to the fact that his parents who were Pork Butchers, were immigrants from Germany and were subjected to a lot of abuse around WW1, so consequently some of his family changed their name by Deed Poll, however, have checked at Kew and this doesn't seem to be so in his case. Of course there would be nothing from stopping him from using another name without going through official channels.
I think I am almost ready to reach for the Valium !!!!
To end, I see from your profile that you are researching the Reed family in Durham. I have just started my paternal side of the family and my aunt married her cousin John Reed at Houghton-le-Spring c1925. My aunt was Maud Wilson and I believe that John Reed came from Hetton-le-Hole, but as I said I have just started this side and still collating information. Perhaps we might find we have a connection !!
Again many thanks for your time.
Regards Dorothy