thanks for all that, kris. a lot of spelling variations there.
one thing concerns me. I've just been looking over at rootsweb, and this is a timeline of what I have found on Ellis Packham.
Ellis "Alice" Packham
1806 - born at Northiam, Sussex to Samuel & Elizabeth Packham
1825 - 1st marriage to Thomas Sargent (b. 1798 at Battle, Sussex) at St Mary's, Northiam, Sussex
1825 - Sophia Packham Sargent born at Northiam, Sussex
1827 - Sarah Sargent born at Beckley, Sussex
1829 - George Sargent born at Beckley, Sussex
1832 - Thomas Marsh Sargent born at Beckley, Sussex
1836 - Eliza Sargent born and died at Beckley, Sussex
1838 - Sargent family emigrates to Sydney aboard Woodbridge
1840 - Henry Packham Sargent born at Sutton Forest, NSW
1841 - Jane Elizabeth Sargent born at Sutton Forest, NSW
1842 - Mary Sargent born at Sutton Forest, NSW
1843 - James Sargent born at Sutton Forest, NSW
1844 - 2nd marriage to Aaron Harding (b. 1802 at Northiam, Sussex) in South Australia
1845 - Aaron Junior Harding born at Sutton Forest, NSW
1848 - William Harding born at Gawler, SA
1851 - 2nd husband Aaron Harding dies at Gawler, SA
1852 - 3rd marriage to Richard Rees (b. 1811 in Maldwyn, Wales) at Gawler, SA
1863 - dies at Butcher's Gap, Kapunda, SA
1877 - 1st husband Thomas Sargent dies at Boorowa, NSW
1879 - 3rd husband Richard Rees dies at Marrabel, SA
see the problem? divorces were very rare in those days amongst the working class, they were all agricultural labourers, yet she remarries twice while her first husband is alive.