was my great great grandmother addopted .

[CaroleW]

so mary had a chlid before she married john , 

1871 census  all b Blackford except Mary Ann.  The Grish children are indexed as Grist and their births are on freebmd as Grist

John Cave 36 ag labourer
Mary A   36 b Dorset Kington Magna
Jane 10
Susan 8
Harriet Kate   7
Ellen  2
George  7 months
Arthur Grist 9 boarder
Charles Grist 7 boarder
RG10 Piece 2426 Folio 172 Page 11


1861 census

John Cave 28 b Blackford
Mary A   26 b North Cadbury
Jane   1 b Blackford
RG9 Piece 1650 Folio 91 Page 2

Marriages Dec 1858 

John Cave   Wincanton  5c 937   
Mary Ann Hansford   

[CaroleW]

Deaths September qtr 1869 
 
Mary Ann Cave  aged 35  Wincanton  5c 315

John didn't hang around did he - he re-married in the December qtr 1869

[CaroleW]

1861 census for Blackford - all b Blackford except Mary A

Thomas Grist 28 ag labourer
Mary A  26 b Kingston Magna Dorset
William C   3
George  2
RG9 Piece 1650 Folio 93 Page 6

Deaths June qtr 1867
 
Thomas Grist aged 35  Wincanton  5c 343

[WHITSTABLE]

hi thankyou for all the info, i am a bit confused now , so which of the ladys wouled be be my great greatgrandmother as thay are both named mary is it mary hansford or mary grish ,

[CaroleW]

See my reply above

If you check the 1881 census you will find a stepson surname Grish

John Cave married Mary Grish/Grist in 1869 in Wincanton so no question of daughter Mary Ann being adopted as she was not born until 1872