thanks Angelfish - all help very much appreciated as I may not have had John Vaux so all advice and info is useful when seen through new eyes
Richard Vaux Meynell baptised 25/12/1818 St Michaels Durham Bishopwearmouth. Married Sunderland 21/7/1839 to Jane Dawson born Sunderland.
children:
Mary Ann baptised 5/7/1841 Ballast Hills Bishopwearmouth, died Southampton Hampshire 1845
Robertina bn Southampton 1842 married George Abberley 28/7/1867 St Peter & St Paul Milton by Gravesend Kent.
Jane Mynell born 1843 Southampton, died 1843 Southampton
Sarah Jane Meynell born 1846 Southampton, died 1848 North Ayelsford Kent.
Richard James born 1847 Southampton, Burial 24/9/1848 St Botolphs Northfleet Kent
Elizabeth baptised 8/10/1848 St Botolphs Northfleet, died 1848 North Ayelsford Kent
Margaret Jane baptised 5/9/1852 St Botolphs, died 1861 North Ayelsford Kent
Richard Vaux baptised 28/5/1854 St Botolphs, died 1854 Northfleet.
Wife Jane - death registration was June Qtr 1854 Sunderland
Richard Vaux Mennel then married 4/12/1855 Northfleet Gravesend Kent, Caroline Redpath Dawson (born Sunderland)
their children:
Richard William Meynell baptised 17/12/1856 St Botolphs registered birth Nth Ayelsford Kent, married Miriam Robinson in Sunderland1883, died 1921 Sunderland.
Samuel Vaux Meynell baptised 27/3/1859 St Botolphs
John Vaux Meynell baptised 30/12/1860 St Botolphs, died Gravesend 1865
Thomas Meynell baptised 28/12/1862 Holy Trinity, Milton by Gravesend.
Richard, Samuel and Thomas returned to Sunderland possibly around the time of Richard Vaux Senior's death as they appear there during and after the 1881census.
Richard Vaux Meynell was a shipwright (Master) and had a building company in Kent. His company is mentioned on
www.thamestugs.co.uk as he built the vessel Garribaldi listed on their site (found via a google search).
Prior to this he was a partner in a Business of Iron and Wood Ship Builders, Engineers, Millwrights, Machinists, Boiler and Tank Makers, Iron and Brass Founders, General Smiths, and Mast and Block Makers - the business was based at Milton-next-Gravesend and was named Turner, Jacobs & Meynell and was amicably dissolved 17 Sept 1862 (newspaper article sent to me).
When Richard Vaux Meynell died in 1873, according to the Wills and Probate Record, he was a 'Widow" and left 200 GBP to his 'only' next of kin (!!!) daughter, Robertina Abberley which intrigues me.
I have spent long 'sore eye' nights looking for his brother (born 1823/4), John Meynell's death record and fresh eyes are definitely needed now as per my previous request but I am also very appreciative of any further information around the shipbuilding scenario.