Hi guys -
I think some of you have mis understood me- i am in NO WAY judging my Ggrandmother so I am sorry if you all feel that way but that was not my intention - I am merely asking if people have experienced this feeling when searching for ancestors who are dead and we have no real feel of who they were. I just feel odd that i am feeling so close to her yet i do not know her.....im not saying she was bad or an angel - im just trying to see both sides and work out what seems more plausible-
For those of you who think I am confused this is what I have got
I have found that this lady had one child with another man and this child was raised as my great grandads 'son' although he wasnt. The man is on the childs birth cert that i gained through purchase at local BMD registry offices -as is the childs mothers maiden name.
I do not know what happened to the man.
She then had 2 children by my great grand father. One being my grandfather- born in April 1927. Both his and his sisters certs show the fathers name- who was the man in prison.
This man died in prison (yes i do know why - but i dont want to enter into because its very personal to the family) in Aug of '27.
So my grandad being born in April of 1927 would mean that my grandad was 4 months old when his dad died -
after my Ggrandfathers death the records i have show that his wife went on to have a baby in Dec of 1927 - which suggests that she would have had to have fallen pregnant virtully as soon as my grandad was born.....
I know a lot of you are poo-pooing this idea and believe me I have found this odd too - and yes there is a possibility of my ggrandfather being the childs father however these are the docs that i have and I can only say what is infront of my eyes.... the cert shows a different mans name on this babies cert.
after this child is born she has another 3 with the same man - the same father is listed on all 4 of the childrens certs....
she dosest marry this man until some 35 years later -
he had a wife you see ( i have the marriage docs for that marriage - he also had children in this marriage) rather than divorce her he waited till she died I also have the docs for his first wifes death)
I recently was given a family tree doc that has been in the family for some years - I have gained most of my work from this and each piece has so far fitted with docs i have already got. This tree was written out by a family member in their 80s and from what I have been told has been in a box for some years doing nothing until i mentioned i was doing this.....It has now been given to me and i am working with/from it. I have also had contact with a member of the family that my ggreat nan had after my ggradfathers death - so this is the 'extended' family - this man also has the same detailing as me on his tree...
All i was saying is that i feel odd about it, I dont know what to make of it and i was hoping some of you would be able to understand where i was coming from in trying to convey a feeling about something that is so close to the family yet is so far... its just odd that it can make you feel like that and get your mind racing....
I do not think I need a change of hobby as some people may think- now that some of the members of the board have also said that they have felt the same on discovering a huge skeleton within their families, i now know as a newbie who has never done this before, its normal to feel so connected to a distant link and to experience the emotion that goes with it.
Thanks for all your help.
Any further comments please PM me and i can give you more detail if i have confused any one