Sarah Cane/Cain/Kane b.1854

[heywood]

Hi William,
That's good news. Did Margaret's baptism have that surname for her mother-Macasbury?
Heywood

[WilliamKane]

Hi William,
That's good news. Did Margaret's baptism have that surname for her mother-Macasbury?
Heywood

Ah, well yes but I think it says "Macartney".

[heywood]

I thought it must be a transcription error- couldn't find the name anywhere else.
So that is a bit more information for you 

[WilliamKane]

Yes.  Another piece of the puzzle.

[heywood]

There doesn't seem to be a marriage though for William and Sarah 
I keep looking but no trace.

[WilliamKane]

Does "conjug" on a baptism record mean they were married? There are loads of them, "conjugs" I mean. That's proof of a sort I'd say. It's puzzling. 

[heywood]

A baptism certificate usually has dad's  name and then mother's name with 'olim' which means formerly - with her maiden name and  them 'conjugum' which indicates they are a married couple. I think.
It isn't, though, proof that they are married - just that they say they are.
There doesn't seem to be a civil record of a marriage, unless both names are badly transcribed or they are missing from the indexes.

[WilliamKane]

Oh go on, rain on my parade, why don't you! 

[heywood]

Just to say that my grandparents married in 1940s. Their children were born 1903-1911!
We found grandma married to someone else in 1901 (quite a shock). Apart from the first child who was registered in grandma's first married name, the others were registered with grandfather's surname and mother's maiden name (no mention of that first married name).
1911 census, they say they had been married for 9 years.
They waited for first husband to die before they married - a long wait.

Not everything is always straight forward