Right , hugs ALL round now. I will now come clean, I am researching my Fathers family, they are a good family from what I have found , but a century ago, a woman married in who "poisoned the well!", my grandmother, she would not acknowledge any of her grandchildren and treated my beautiful mother,
me and my brothers and sisters appallingly! , as well as her sons and daughters in law. Her judgemental attitude rubbed off on her own daughters and I grew up with that, I am still trying to deal with it .
The strangest and cruellest twist was, after my grandmother died, one of her daughters let slip that my grandmother had had an illegitimate child! and my grandfather "could not have married a worst choice " according to his friends!, he lived to regret it and hated his own daughters. His son, my father could not have married a better woman
speaking of whom found out some years ago just what kind of an environment this mother in law from hell hailed from.
My mother was in a hairdressers on day relating the family history and gave the name of the village her mother in law came from , the whole salon-customers and staff froze in horrified silence.
Like I said HUGS all round
sitting here with tea and a few tears for us all.
