Further to my last message, I have now found the Site and Grave Number for Amelia Pattenden:
Stone Number: 11
Yard: East Grinstead Cemetery
Inscription:
AMELIA PATTENDEN Occupation Widow aged 78
Died at East Grinstead Sackville College burial 1st May 1869
Grave no.266
I have confirmed with the Cemetery Dept that she is indeed in the Queen's Road Cemetery. However, as this is a locked Cemetery, - I don't expect anyone to try and photograph the gravestone for me... Visits have to be booked in advance and are 'supervised visits' for which a £15.00 fee is charged.
Interestingly, she has company in her grave... 5yr old Charlotte Mary Dyer, (Amelia's G/Grandchild) was also Buried there in 1878.
Many thanks for all of the help from on here with this.
Romilly.