So we have a lass, born Dundee Scotland in 1829, arriving at aged 4 years 6 months in NSW with her 2 brothers and her mum in Nov 1833, to meet up with their husband/father. Mum dies shortly after arrival, so dad places his daughter into care, and remarries in Sydney a couple of years later.
And we are trying to validate our OP’s belief that the lass who was placed in the orphanage was twice married, both times in NSW, firstly to (Edward) MELVIN, who died shortly after birth of their first child (likely baptised in March 1852 as James) and the second time in 1853 to James DILLON and that she died Feb 1897 as Mary Ann DILLON and buried Presbyterian section Mudgee cemetery, but there’s NO information on that NSW BDM death registration, so there's no information on that dc that ties the lass back to James KIDD of the Sydney Botanic Gardens.
So we have a lass born 1829, arrived 1833, second marriage 1853, so from that second marriage which is indexed at NSW BDM as Mary KIDD, (and not under her first husband’s surname) what is recorded on the parish register
Was she recorded as a Widow or as a Spinster, if as a widow, then the record should show marriage by licence.
Was Mary’s age recorded
Was Mary’s father’s name/occupation recorded
Which clergyman conducted that 1853 marriage ceremony?
Any of those details could well be of help to find Mary’s first marriage, assuming it was in NSW. And, if Mary's first marriage was BEFORE she turned 21, then we could well find her father being named as giving consent for her first marriage....
Cheers, JM
