« Reply #15 on: Friday 09 March 18 18:58 GMT (UK) »
we don't know if your relative is wanting attention from his pals and/or finding pleasure in giving the impression he has a mystery in the family. We're all different but my response would be to laugh it off and say we share the same common ancestor.
Yes he does want attention. He always says ''Guess what folks...... Can you believe that me and him are actually related?'' But when he says ''well sort of'' that is when I feel he is putting me down.
I don't see it that way. To me, it seems he doesn't have the words to express/explain the relationship. I'm from a seaport and here's my take. We have to accept that amongst our friends and family there are some who have their hand on the tiller and have charge of the boat and others who allow the current to take them wherever it wanders. If you value the friendship - I wouldn't rock the boat.
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