When I decided to go down the Ancestral DNA route I accepted that I may find something out of the ordinary regarding my parents or grandparents. As it happened I didn't, it just confirmed what I expected to find.
However, I have recently been messaged by a person with very high (the highest I have to date) shared DNA link to me who thinks that they are a first cousin of mine; they are not as I don't have any (OK, I could be wrong on that, but I very much doubt it and other factors show it not to be the case here anyway - see below).
Our common ancestors include all four of my grandparents and the age of the person concerned and the percentage of shared DNA means that they (I'll use the pronouns they/them here) could only be a child of my sibling. This person is clearly unaware of this as (I'm fairly sure) is the only person on my side of the family who could be the father.
The dilemma I have is what do I do about this? If the person concerned continues to research their DNA matches they will pretty soon determine that all of their matches include me and none include any of their father's family. Alternatively they may not understand what they are seeing, assume that no one on their father's family has been tested and give up.
Has anyone else come across this issue? Is there any accepted protocol to cover such a situation?