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Re: would you be offended
« Reply #9 on: Monday 15 May 23 21:58 BST (UK) »
Not sure why you are feeling offended.  The couple are obviously looking to the future, and not to the past!
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Re: would you be offended
« Reply #10 on: Monday 15 May 23 22:47 BST (UK) »
Our Daughter got married on the beach in Cancun, Mexico. They posed together sat on the beach facing the sea and their shoes were placed behind them, it was a beautiful photo. That was everyone's favourite photo.
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Re: would you be offended
« Reply #11 on: Monday 15 May 23 23:03 BST (UK) »
to go completely o/t.

Wasn't invited to my nephews wedding - no issue with that - they chose to have a very small wedding.
Sent then some money as a gift. (have always got on with nephew although we live a distance apart.)

They sent a wedding photo but it's a back view of the couple - they are both facing the hills in the distance - am I right to feel a tad offended or am I being a bit techy?
 

I believe that it is a modern photography fad for weddings. Especially if there is a pond, or lake, or river/stream handy. 

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Re: would you be offended
« Reply #12 on: Tuesday 16 May 23 12:29 BST (UK) »
At least they mentioned the grandchild.  When my father-in-law died it was husband of….., father of……. No mention of grandson.   When my ex died I did the full genealogical notice.  Parents, me, son, grandkids.  So it is all there if someone looks in years to come.
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Re: would you be offended
« Reply #13 on: Tuesday 16 May 23 14:50 BST (UK) »
yes, I think that. the. photo from the. back is just a modern trend...looking to the future...ok among photos but I can see why you'd prefer a. front view as the only photo, though I don't think they meant to offend.

in my example....missing out the diil...the. family were quite well off, so it couldn't have been for the extra cost....my take is that id have felt put out....but I don't know the background

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Re: would you be offended
« Reply #14 on: Tuesday 16 May 23 17:44 BST (UK) »
Maybe just concentrating on her spouse and any blood descendants and leaving out the in laws.

In 1827 an ancestor of mine died aged 101, and it mentions the amount of grandchildren she had etc. This was in rural Suffolk. No mention of her birth name though, as she wed in about 1750 but cannot find a marriage record yet. Once you get back before 1754 for marriages it can get harder. They had their first known child in 1752.
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Re: would you be offended
« Reply #15 on: Tuesday 16 May 23 17:51 BST (UK) »
Of course, sometimes the simplest answers are the best. Bereaved people often do not make the best decisions and forget things that should be done. 

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Re: would you be offended
« Reply #16 on: Wednesday 17 May 23 21:48 BST (UK) »
thanks for the replies -
the odd thing is I have never met my nephew's wife. (We live 200 miles apart.)
They had a whirlwind romance and were married 5/6 months after first meeting.
I would have liked to see what she looks like!

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Re: would you be offended
« Reply #17 on: Friday 19 May 23 11:34 BST (UK) »
Bear in mind also that obituaries are charged on a per word basis. So the more names the higher the cost. You have to draw the line somewhere!

After my mother-in-law died, my husband's sister wanted to identify me in the obit as a daughter, just to save $$ on a few letters. I put the kibosh on that.
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