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Thanks all..new info learned just yesterday suggests that Robert Findley's birth year was 1840...not 1845-47 as was first thought..this comes from a relative with his death certificate. But in reality what I am looking for is any sign that the Findley's actually did come from Forfarshire as shown on Robert's marriage certificate because he seems to have been prone to a certain laxity of truth ...as to his parents marriage or the birth of any siblings ect..that would be a bonus. I looked at a 1841 census that shows a 1 year old Robert Findley with parents James and Jean..I have Roberts parents and Jane and Robert snr..I guess the names  Jean and Jane are interchangeable but the fathers names of James and Robert not so much.

you're right Sue...Ellen was only 17 when she married Donald Carlo, a man 30 years her senior, and so perhaps not what she expected...I know that George Foster lived in a nearby street to her while she was in the Buxton relationship though...and young Ada Buxton was always known as Bonnie Foster almost from the start....we can't look back at those days from today's perspective and make critical judgements...they were different times. But oh my, isn't it fascinating 
Karen

Thank you all.......the information I have is from a distant family member , most of what I have received fro you all ties in with what I have been told...Eleanor muddied the waters a lot by using lots of names Helen, Ellen, Nellie, etc as well as Buxton, Carlo. Findley....add to that her 'partner/husband names of Donald and James...she once said one of her daughters fathers was Robert Carlo...Robert was actually her own fathers name.
It is a belief in our family that she bigamously married George Foster before her 1st husband, Donald Carlo,  had died and also prior to her defacto James Buxton's demise....It was a surprise to see her mentioned in Hannah's wedding notice though because it was always believed that Hannah knew nothing of her parents and was raised by a foster family.

Thanks Ros..yes all of that information does pertain to Eleanor's mother...the Mrs Gribble is her sister and of course she is Mrs Foster.....I have all this already but I don't have the probate packet for Elizabeth Gribble so I really appreciate your offer of a pic of it.
Eleanor Foster's desertion of her 3 older girls is a mystery to me, especially the 2 eldest...why?...and where did she leave them ?...I only have scant info on the 3rd child Hannah , who was 'fostered' with a family named Seber, and who apparently had a miserable childhood, but nothing at all on the older 2.
Kasden