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The indexes give the names as Ann FENNELL, and the date is 1846.
Best wishes.

Hello,

From Ancestry:

England, Select Marriages, 1538–1973

Name   
Ann Feunde

Gender   
Female

Marriage Date   
04 Jul 1846

Marriage Place   
Laughton, Sussex, England

Spouse   
William Tompsett

FHL Film Number   
1067216

Reference ID   
47

Household Members
William Tompsett   
Ann Feunde

*Edited to add, apologies for the slip with the date, I must have typed too fast or something! But I definitely do have the name Feunde here; although I have just looked up Fennell and have found the record that you mention :

I agree Carol, the best thing is to drip feed - give them a tiny bit and ask for clarification of something in return. That way you soon realise if they are genuine or just trying to get information without giving.

However in Fleur's example, it does seem odd - why would anyone be that worried about seeing divorce information, rather than just take her word for it? If someone told me about a divorce, I wouldn't then expect them to produce the documents to prove it, I would get them myself if I was that bothered.

Hello!

The person in question was aware before speaking to me that our mutual relative has been married three times and divorced three times. The person had a rough idea of our relative's divorce dates. When they asked me if the dates seem correct I responded in the affirmative and they then said that they won't show me their tree until I get the decrees and the precise dates. They said to me that they need these dates for their tree and that they don't want to show it to me until they have them as their tree is not complete until they do.

They also said that they have contacted said relative in regards to their divorces and that our relative ignored their letter and a few weeks later hung (hanged?) up on their unwelcome telephone call.

This doesn't surprise me as apparently they started the telephone call not with an introduction, but with, "hi, I'm doing a family tree - can you please confirm that names of your three husbands and the dates when you divorced them?".

Thank you for all the good advice.

Fleur xxxx

I was about to suggest the same thing, Fleur, that they may not be related at all, but are just trying to trace living people for another reason. Why would they expect you to supply and pay for divorce information if it is also their relative? Ignore them, or tell them you are not interested and if they want to follow it up they can get the certificates for themselves.

In the meantime why not post your brickwalls on one of the forums on here, there are a lot of very clever people who may be able to help?

Thank you for your kindness

I'm pleased I'm not the only one who thinks that the whole thing seems a bit off!

Thank you again

I've used that site in the past, many years ago, didn't feel it was worth the fee.

However I think you should get in touch with them & explain exactly the events & the outcome, send them a copy of all the correspondence & explain you're not happy & feel duped & that you would like something done about it as it's not something you would expect on an open forum.

Annie

Added You will need to give his Forum name & email address.

Oh thank you! I will do this. And I'll be more careful in future as well. Very disappointing, especially as they wouldn't even tell me how we're related.