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The Common Room / Re: Need to find half brother - don't know his name
« on: Sunday 19 August 18 23:44 BST (UK)  »
Caw1

Thank you for your input. I'm preparing myself for any kind of reaction from him, so if he wants nothing to do with me I am ready to accept and respect whatever he wants. My mom's way of dealing with it is to pretend it never happened. I think it's too painful for her to face, so I don't really talk to her about it, and if I meet him and she doesn't want to, that's between him and her. But as for my sisters and I, we can't imagine going our whole lives and never meeting our brother, or at least doing everything we can to make the effort. Ultimately he would have to want to meet us too. So we hope he wants too. Of course I think it would be incredible if him and I hit it off and he became a role model to me and I became like a little brother to him - but realistically I don't expect anything like that to happen. Realistically I would be so happy to have what you described; to just meet him and even if it ends up with us meeting one day and never seeing each other again, at least we can close that chapter of our lives and not wonder who our brother is forever.

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The Common Room / Re: Need to find half brother - don't know his name
« on: Saturday 18 August 18 23:22 BST (UK)  »
Daisypetal - Thank you very much for sharing that. Yes he was born in Palm Beach County, Florida and he may now live in Chicago. I have filled out the application and am hopeful that he may be listed on FARR.

aghadowey - my sisters are just as anxious as I am to find him, they live in the same city as my mom so they were able to squeeze this info out of her. I'm sure that my mom knows more, but my mom chose to give him up when she was just 22 years old and she had a really hard time with it. So I think my mom has learned to shut down and pretend like it never happened as a way to avoid the feelings instead of dealing with it. It was an incredible shock to learn about him... but it does explain a lot about why my mom is so attached to her kids and why she is so sensitive and emotional. I can't imagine how hard it must have been for her. But I also think that my sisters and I, and our half brother have the right to meet each other - if he also wants to.

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The Common Room / Re: Need to find half brother - don't know his name
« on: Sunday 22 July 18 20:30 BST (UK)  »
Jackie

I agree that he probably doesn't know about me, but I'm sure he knows he has biological family out there and I hope he wants to know us as much as we want to know him.

I don't know how I can find his adoptive parents. If I could I think I could easily find him. But I only know the names of his biological parents.

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The Common Room / Need to find half brother - don't know his name
« on: Sunday 22 July 18 09:46 BST (UK)  »
Hi all

I'm 34 years old and just found out I have a 49 year old half brother. Apparently my grandparents wanted to hide this so bad that they sent my mom to a catholic boarding school so no one but them ever knew about him.

Obviously I'm in shock but also really excited to meet my brother. But I don't know his name. Literally all I know is his birthdate and that it was in palm beach. I know his mom and dads names but I don't even know if they'd be on the birth certificate. My sister says he may live in Chicago.

I've never done anything like this before so I figured instead of spinning my wheels I'd just ask for help from people who know what they're talking about. I hope I can find him! And I hope he wants to know us too!

Does anyone know how I could find out his name and find him?

Thank you in advance for your help!

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