Ignore this Andy... you already know this...I misread your posting
Hi Andy
Take a look at 1851 census first and see what you make of this..

1851c HO 107/1639/602/21
Address Burling Cottage, Frant Road Kent/Sussex
John Curd 33 1818 Head Gardener Buxted Sussex
Eliza Curd 33 c1818 Wife Buxted Sussex
Caroline Curd 2 1849 daughter Buxted Sussex
William Curd 5 1846 son Buxted Sussex
Elizabeth Wildish 9 1841 daughter Buxted Sussex
James Wildish 7 1844 son Buxted Sussex son I have found extracted christening records for Elizabeth and James Wildish.
Elizabeth Wildish ch 17.10.1841 Buxted Sussex
James Wildish ch 25.6.1843 Buxted Sussex.
Parents William and Eliza Wildish.
It looks like William Wildish died and Eliza marries John Curd
Annie
