Welcome to RoostChat Alan. Sue hasn't been on RootsChat for several years but with a bit of luck she'll get a notification of your message. No doubt other RootsChat users will be happy to help with your search though.
As for Emily, there's a newspaper item that provides a bit more proof that Vandelo was her father. It also implies her marriage to Mr Carter was before Aug 1862.
There are numerous newspaper items referencing Vandelo Stanley but they may not all be for Emily's father, as at least one refers to Vandelo Stanley the elder. I'll have a dig around and see if I can find anything else re. Emily.
Portsmouth Times and Naval Gazette
09 Aug 1862
City Bench - Monday - Before the Mayor, Dr. Tyacke, W. Gruggen, T H Clark and B Adams. Vandelo Stanley, and Emily Stanley, his daughter, gipsies, were charged with assaulting Mary, wife of Charles Stanley, another of their tribe on Saturday last. Mr Fraser appeared for the complainant. Complainant stated that she was selling beer at Goodwood during the race week, and the defendants kept annoying her. On Saturday she saw the defendants near Mr Light's shop at Eastgate. Complainant went into the shop, and when she came out the defendants were passing by, and she heard Emily say, "I'll knock her eye out if I get six months for it." She shortly afterwards came up and struck her several times in the face. She heard the man Stanley say, "Give it to her Emily." Other witnesses gave corroborative evidence of the assault, and Emily Stanley was fined 10s and 8s costs, and Vandelo Stanley 10s and 10s costs, or in default to be imprisoned for 21 days' each. The fines were paid.
A cross summons had been taken out by Emily Stanley or Carter (Stanley being her maiden name) against Charles Stanley, which was heard at the same Bench. The assault arose out of the same affair, and after hearing the evidence, the mayor said that although they were of opinion that the defendant had not acted properly, nor that he was entirely free from blame in the matter, yet they should dismiss the case and hoped that his tribe in future would live more peaceably.