un-delivered/lost e-mails

[Rabbit B]

hi everyone,

here is a curious phenomenon that i would be very grateful to have an answer to 

a dear friend of mine e-mails me several times daily. now and then, the e-mails fail to arrive.  yesterday two of them went astray, so i phoned my server, they tested everything and said all was well.  this morning one of them was delivered. the other one is still missing.  does anyone know why this happens? and more to the point where do they go 

all her other friends get their mail OK, and in both cases the mails show in the sent boxes. so her server must be OK too

i am using XP professional outlook express with Norton internet security 2008 and she is using Vista with F-secure

there is nothing in either of the spam boxes so that is not where they are

rabbit b 
PS please excuse one handed typing 

[LizzieW]

I use Windows Vista and Thunderbird and have had a similar thing happen to me.  Three times I have been sent me e-mails where I was one of about a dozen people being sent the e-mails and I've been the only person not to receive them.   As I was expecting the e-mails, I queried when they would be sent out, only to be told they had been.  Twice, the recipient just replied to my e-mail giving me the information I needed and they arrived OK.  In the third case, just to be sure, the person e-mailing, forwarded a copy to my OH who uses Windows XP and Microsoft Outlook with a copy to me.  That arrived OK, and I've since received other e-mails from the same person.

Who knows where these "lost" e-mails end up.

Lizzie

[silvery]

Are they being extracted from the ether to be 'censored' or 'stored' in the vast database in the sky?   

   just joking.  I don't know what happens to them, either.   

[lookingforold]

Is your Mail Box near to its max capacity?

[carol8353]

Surely everyone knows they are spining round in Cyberspace never to be seen again.

My broadband provider is Orange and I always blame them when something goes awry,which it does on a regular basis  

Carol

[Rabbit B]

oh well it is nice to know that i am not alone, so to answer these kind messages.

LizzieW, thanks for your comment, it is interesting to know that it happens to others as well.   this is a recent thing for us though

lookingforold, mailboxes cleared regularly, by both parties.
we are both experienced users of computers. thanks for the suggestion though. 

like Carol i blamed my ISPS till they checked it out. thanks for your answer too.

silvery, one party has a sky box in the house, i wonder if that is to blame. so your suggestion not such a 'joke' 

rabbit b 

[Suttonrog]

Don't forget that many ISPs have built in spam protection - some of them are more rigorous than others.

Emails can be ditched for contains a wrong word or having no subject line or a whole host of other reasons.

I have one correspondent who's Emails never reach me unless he replies to one of my messages.

I would rather have that than 20 spam messages a day.

Rog

[aghadowey]

My ISP recently 'upgraded' and 'improved' their anti-spam filter. After discovering my sister's email telling me our aunt had died (which included a link to online obituary) had gone missing I check my email account on ISP's site and discovered a few 'mistakes' lodged in Spam folder (all had email addresses quoted in the message).

[Rabbit B]

Don't forget that many ISPs have built in spam protection - some of them are more rigorous than others.

Emails can be ditched for contains a wrong word or having no subject line or a whole host of other reasons.

I have one correspondent who's Emails never reach me unless he replies to one of my messages.

I would rather have that than 20 spam messages a day.

Rog

hi Rog,

hence the reason i checked with ISPS last night. it still does not explain why one of the messages came this morning though. when the technician checked last night there was nothing stuck anywhere which was coming to me.

like you i would rather not want any spam, but like you mine gets well filtered out.

rabbit b  

PS thanks aghadowey, i spotted your post as i was posting this. i have no idea how to get into their site.

i would be grateful if you would tell me how to do it, or does this only apply to a webmail type that can be picked up anywhere.