Hi Richard
Welcome to Rootschat.
I'm descended from Thomas Herbert's sister so I'm only related to Lavinia Condie by marriage and I've not investigated her line very thoroughly. However, I do have some small mementos of the family, as their son, Herbert, was not only my 1st cousin, once removed, but also my godfather. Lavinia was always referred to as Aunty Vinny by my father.
I know that Lavinia Condie's parents were Edward and Caroline. Edward was a Collier. She was born May 1st 1865, Chirk Green
They are living Chirk Green in 1871 - RG10/2784/48/12
Edward Condie, 45 , collier, b. Selattyn
Caroline, wife, 46
Thomas, s, 16, collier
Edward. s, 14, collier
Charles, s, 12, collier
Joseph, s, 10
Vinia, d, 6
William Williams, lodger, 25, collier
All but Edward were born Chirk.
Given that Edward was born Selattyn as well as Mary, it would be worth you checking to see if there was a relationship.
Could I also add a word of caution ~ the three children (Caroline, Herbert and Dorothy) referred to everyone in Chirk as 'cousin' or 'cuz', whether they were related to them or not, so that your wife's connection might be of this order.
gnu
added - have checked my records and note that Edward Cond/ie and Caroline Williams married in Ruabon, Jan 30th 1853. Another relative of ours, Seth Twigg*, was a witness. Edward's father was Thomas Cond/ie, a shoemaker.
This looks like Edward's baptism:
https://familysearch.org/pal:/MM9.1.1/JQ58-P38and his parents' marriage:
https://familysearch.org/pal:/MM9.1.1/NJHR-7PG1841 Census
Selattyn
HO107/916/5/33/7
Thomas Cond, 40. shoemaker
Elinor, 40
Edward, 10
William, 10
Thomas, 10
Richard, 5
Joseph, 2
All b. Shropshire
* Seth Twigg was the son of Benjamin Twigg and Ann Mates (nee Cash). Ann was previously married to Thomas Mates, who died at Black Park Colliery in the 1820s. Aged 25. Thomas and Ann were my 3 x great grandparents.
Added later -
Goodness
I've just found Edward Condie on the 1851 census in Chirk:
HO107/1993/810/20
Benjamin Twigg, 55, Engineer, b, Cannock
Ann, w, 55
Eunice, d, 14
Mary, d, 12
Edward Conde, visitor, 22, coal miner, b. Selattyn
Others b. Chirk
and just discovered that Edward's wife Caroline Williams' father, Walter, was married to Ann Twigg/Mates/Cash's sister Martha - the web tightens -
So -
Lavinia Condie m Thomas Herbert Mates
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Edward Condie & Caroline Williams
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Walter Williams & Martha Cash (sister of Ann who married 1. Thomas Mates 2. Benjamin Twigg)
Ann and Thomas Mates were the great grandparents of Thomas Herbert Mates. If I've worked it out correctly, Lavinia and Thomas were therefore 2nd cousins, once removed

Mates Line:
Thomas Mates m. Ann Cash
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James Mates m Elizabeth Stokes
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Thomas Mates m. Ellen Jones
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Thomas Herbert Mates
Condie Line:
Walter Williams m Martha Cash
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Caroline Williams m. Edward Condie
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Lavinia Condie