« Reply #17 on: Tuesday 17 April 18 09:56 BST (UK) »
Hi LizzieW,
Thanks for your post about what you do in such circumstances. I have tried that as well and I have also done things Jen's way. The most recent time this has happened to me I did try a friendly, helpful style approach explaining that I would like them to post on their main thread where I had already posted several look ups. They said they would and then nothing. Their first response to me had been along the lines of 'Thanks .. yes that seems to be him.' (Between us we had a total of 4 pm posts.) I would much rather that they had said this on the main thread.
What I have found puzzling is why some people make public posts giving lots of detail to ensure that it is easy for others to offer help. Then once answers or look ups are found (and I am not referring to more private/confidential areas - I understand about privacy for that) they suddenly decide to switch to a pm. This can often lead to a string of researchers feeling up in the air about whether the recipient felt the information to be accurate, interesting helpful, etc.
On some where on here I am sure there is something along the lines of 'dislike the use of personal messaging unless of a sensitive nature ... RootsChat is a public forum'.. This just makes me wonder when did saying thank you become something of a 'sensitive' nature'?
However, it is interesting to note on your post that some people have responded to you saying that they had not thought of putting thanks on the main board. I once responded to a pm as you did - but as I say, I would much rather that this had come from the horse's mouth.
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