Hi Lorna,
I've done a bit more now the 1861's available, and then went back to your findings, and it all ties together.
In the 1861 :-
John Carr, Head, 54, Woodkeeper, Galloway, Glasserton
Ann Carr, Wife, 44, Woodkeepers Wife, Fodderty
Alexndr Carr, Son, 14, Scholar, Fodderty
Jane Carr, Daur, 13, Scholar, Beauly
Andrew Carr, Son, 9, Scholar, Beauly
James A Carr, Son, 7, Scholar, Beauly
Keith W Carr, Son, 5, -, Urray
Francis G Carr, Son, 3, - Fodderty
Scotlands People as you say has an Ann Carr death February 13th 1865 or Dropsy, aged 51, parents Alexander Chisholm, Francis Chisholm, M.S. McLennan.
John married again in 16th April 1869 (aged 58) father Andrew, mother Jane, M.S. McConnell (I think not clear) to Christie Macpherson( aged 35), father Thomas Macpherson, mother Mary Macpherson, M.S. McDonald.
Seems a bit of a rush because on April 20th, 1869 Ann was born. 3 more followed, John 1872, William 1874, Mary 1876.
John Carr (Snr) died June 30th 1889, supposedly aged 85. Father Andrew, mother Jane, M.S. Unknown, reported by Annie Carr daughter.
The 1891 gives
Christina Carr, Head, W, 51, Housekeeper, Ross-shire, Gairloch
John Carr, Son, Un, 19, General Labourer, Fodderty
Mary Carr, Daur, Un, 14, Nurse, Fodderty
I've also solved of Frances(cis) George Carr listed as a Female birth July 27th 1857, which was in fact male, and he died of Consumption in 1877, aged 20.
In 1871 my great grandmother was working as a nurse at Findrapie Mansion, (not sure of the 'F'), Newspynie, which if I've got my head round it has been absorbed into the modern Elgin, and called herself Jane Chisholm Carr.
I haven't found a birth match in the IGI for any of John Carr, Ann Chisholm, or Christina Macpherson.
I haven't looked at the death of John Carr aged 0 in 1886.
John Carr was born any time between 1804 & 1811 depending on when he was asked at Glasserton in Dumfries.
I now want to trace Mary & Ann, who could be the mysterious sister, formerly thought to be Frances, who had a daughter, who may have married one Albert Roy Teague, and gone to live in London in the 1920's.
Bob.