James Cotter, 1861 and 1871

[Milliepede]

Sarah Banham who turns into Sarah Cotter is here in 1871

William Wilby 78 head
Elizabeth Wilby 74 wife
Leah Wilby 26 daughter
Sarah Banham 18 granddaughter

so that supports Wilby as MMN for Hannah but would be helpful to find rest of the family in 1871

[Milliepede]

Benjamin Banham born Sep 1865 Norwich has mothers name Wilby

[jonwarrn]

William Wilby 78 head
Elizabeth Wilby 74 wife
Leah Wilby 26 daughter
Sarah Banham 18 granddaughter

so that supports Wilby as MMN for Hannah but would be helpful to find rest of the family in 1871

COCKER, SARAH  ELIZABETH     
Mother's Maiden Surname: WILBY 
GRO Reference: 1851  S Quarter in NORWICH  Volume 13  Page 267

Marriage, Dec 1849 Norwich 13 735
Cocker, Isaac
Wilby, Sarah
+ 6 others

[Milliepede]

How about this for James 1871 as transcribed but could easily be Banham

James Bantum 21 unmarried servant (groom) born Norwich Norfolk

Living Croydon Surrey

Really need to know what he put on his marriage certificate.

[jonwarrn]

Marriage
Dec 1894 Sculcoates 9d 410
Cotter, Sarah Elizabeth
Lockwood, James

Yorks BMD says at Sculcoates Register Offices or Registrar Attended.

I think they are in Beverley in 1901, Sarah Lockwood is 50, born Norfolk Norwich
https://www.familysearch.org/ark:/61903/1:1:XSS3-DWB

[heywood]

Super sleuthing 

[jonwarrn]

Sarah was the key! Well done to Millie, and to heywood for spotting her in 1881.
There is a baptism!
3 January 1853, St Mark Lakenham (Norwich)
(Born) 28 June 1851
Sarah Elizabeth
parents Isaac + Sarah Cocker
Cherry Street
Father a Shoemaker

[suttontrust]

Looking at the 1871 transcribed as Bantum, it could certainly be Banham.  So we are looking at a change of name plus multiple mix-ups.  Why aren't these people straightforward?    Thanks, folks.

[Milliepede]

Sorry to keep asking but who does he put as his father on the marriage certificate?

All the information on that is important.