FindMyPast has decided I'm a "Nibling" !!!

[Nanna52]

I’m just confused.  About 18 months ago one of my grandchildren no longer recognised as the sex assigned to them at birth.  So all of a sudden I had a grandson.  It is the least of my worries if he now recognises as male as he is still my flesh and blood.  What throws me though is people referring to him as they and them.  It is so ingrained in me that I cannot accept plural for one person in my mind and keep looking for the extra person. 
As for a nibbling I’m only a half, my father had a different father, so am I a nib or a ling?

[Kiltpin]

I went to the bank some while ago to sort out my mother's finances. I was ushered into a side room and a young woman came in a and greeted me with I am Anne Jones and my pronouns are X, Y and Z, what are yours? I told her my name and that my pronouns were "Standard British for an adult male". She took offence at this and told me in no uncertain terms how insensitive I was being. 

When I got a chance, I said (as best I can remember) "I am speaking to YOU. YOU are speaking to ME. WE are conversing, together. I will continue speaking to YOU and YOU will continue speaking to ME until such time as MY business is concluded. WE are speaking to each other in the first person and not in the third person, so why do I have any need to know YOUR pronouns?" " I would only need to know YOUR pronouns if I was going to talk about YOU behind YOUR back, do YOU think that I am going to do that?" 

I could see that she was trying to work it out. After a while, she said, "How can I help you today, Mr Kiltpin?" 

Regards 

Chas

[Girl Guide]

That's the way to go!  Tie their brains up in knots.    Was she by any chance young, as in under 30?

This pronoun business is getting totally out of hand. 

[Kiltpin]

That's the way to go!  Tie their brains up in knots.    Was she by any chance young, as in under 30?

This pronoun business is getting totally out of hand. 

 

Over 20, under 25. 

The thing that gets me is that, you can mispronounce their name - really mangle it up. And they just correct you and life goes on. But get a pronoun wrong, and they instantly become a heaving, steaming, incandescent ball of self-righteous indignation! 

Regards 

Chas

[Ray T]

Nice one Kiltpin. I would probably have just asked her to bring me an adult. Then again, I’ve only been known to be politically correct when I’m being paid to do so. I don’t actually recall giving the slightest thought to pronouns since I passed my O level English back in the 1960s.

[Treetotal]

Thank you Stanwix.  Call me old fashioned but I would prefer it if they stuck to clear names as opposed to these 'could be anything' names.

At the rate this is going we could all be nothings. 

I'm with you...or should that be "I agree with you" as I am not in your presence!!
Dear me, we will all be communicating using symbols at this rate!!
Carol

[Milliepede]

I would probably have just asked her to bring me an adult.

Love that 

[Erato]

"I cannot accept plural for one person"

How do feel about the "royal we" or the use of plurals for at-a-stretch collective nouns (the government are; Harvard crush Yale in the ninth inning)?

[Ray T]

Don’t do the royal “we”. I don’t believe that “the government” is actually a collective noun in the “parliament of crows”, “business of ferrets” sense. Unlike the BBC and other parts of the press, I’m firmly of the singular/plural calling; i.e. the government is, politicians are, calling. Using such terms as  “the team are” rather than “the team is” simply sounds wrong to me.