Dear mab
Thank you so much for all your digging. Yes, I am fairly certain that this is my lot: there is a record for Joseph Jones = Mary Elizabeth Belson at Lewisham St Mary and in the 1851 the wife is listed as Mary E.
It is the rounded age in 41 for Joseph that causes the problem. There is no suitable birth in the IGI (Joseph has his place of birth as Deptford in all censuses and gives his age as 51 in 1851, 60 in 61, 70 in 71, 80 in 81 and died aged 82 in Oct 1882 so I don't know if he's being very accurate or just making a guess). But there are no Josephs, s/o Joseph at all.
I have therefore been working on the assumption that he
could be s/o John (that the father Joseph is an error in his 2nd marr cert - I have a copy of the register of his 1st marr and there are no father's names), esp as he passed this name onto his sons.
Now, interestingly (to me!) there is a Joseph born to John and Elizabeth in Lewisham St Mary in 1801. This does not tie in with the birthplace of Deptford which he gives in all censuses after 1841. However, Mary Elizabeth Bellson was definitely born in Deptford so if they had
both been born there surely they would have got married there? The marriage took place in Lewisham so surely that must have been the parish of one of them? This would add more weight to the father being John, not Joseph.
I was hoping that the John Thomas that Joseph apprenticed his son to was his brother, uncle or cousin and that I could locate Joseph's birth by going back to this common ancestor. Any sightings of John Thomas Jones, Waterman, along the Thames in 41 and 51 would hopefully provide me with a birthdate and place.
Sorry it's so long-winded but it is so difficult locating this pre-1837 info with a surname like Jones!
Best wishes and many thanks again for all your trouble.
Kate