Which wife? Stockhill or Calthorpe?

[Valda]

The 1851 census gives you these men born in Wood Enderby Lincolnshire

Bartholemew Calthorpe 53 Wood Enderby
John Calthorpe 53  Wood Enderby
Christopher Calthrop 49  Wood Enderby
William Calthorp 48  Wood Enderby

Two of whom were residing that night with William and Mary in Mareham le Fen.

The baptisms I can find for William and Mary's children are

CALLTHORP, Christofer
Christening Date:10 Jan 1802 Wood Enderby, Lincolnshire
Father:   William CALLTHORP
Mother:   Mary

CALTHORP, William   
Christening Date:29 Sep 1804 Wood Enderby, Lincolnshire
Father:   William CALTHORP
Mother:   Mary

CALTHORP, Sammuell   
Christening Date:   17 Jan 1807 Wood Enderby, Lincolnshire
Father:   William CALTHORP
Mother:   Mary

CALTHORP, Mary Ann   
Christening Date:   4 Jun 1809 Wood Enderby, Lincolnshire
Father:   William CALTHORP
Mother:   Mary

and

CARTNEY, Bartholomew   
Christening Date:   JUL 1799   Wood Enderby, Lincolnshire
Father:   William CARTNEY
Mother:   Mary

CARTNEY, Elizabeth   
Christening Date:   JUL 1799   Wood Enderby, Lincolnshire
Father:   William CARTNEY
Mother:   Mary

I can't see John's baptism and there is nothing earlier than 1799 in the Wood Enderby registers.

You state William Calthorpe married Mary Kirk. You presumably know where that marriage took place. Marriages ususally take place in the bride's parish and if William wasn't resident in the same parish the marriage register itself should state which parish he was resident in (but not necessarily born in).If that is the first record you have that is where you start checking the baptismal register of that parish for potential William Calthorpes. If that isn't successful you have to check adjacent parishes (which may or may not be on the IGI). Lincolnshire Family History Society may have further indexes which might help.

Regards

Valda

[Calthorpe]

Gosh, Valda!  You are such an invaluable member of this forum. 

This is earliest I have:

William Calthorpe (bn abt 1768 d: 1 May 1846) marries Mary Kirk (bn: 1776, d: 16 July 1846) in Mareham Le Fen, Lincs, England on 20 October 1794.

Their children:
Joseph bn 30 August 1795, no death or marriage details.
John 1798 d: 29 June 1886 Had two wives, Mary and Elizabeth.
Bartholemew 1799 whom we have just discussed
Christopher 10 January 1802 and wife Mary Todd with their issue immigrated to Australia, settled in Goulburn NSW.  Both Christopher and Mary are buried at Merrilla in NSW. Two sons Richard and William Lawrence, both married sisters Harriet and Rosanna Fielding.  All living decendants today, are either in Australia or New Zealand.
William 29 September 1804 m Elizabeth Vinter.  Have lots of kids (.  Second born William married Harriet Dawson (another William, she sighs...) shifted to London.
Samuel 17 Jan 1807 died 1824.
Mary Ann 4 June 1809 died 2 June 1833.

[Valda]

You probably have all this but just in case something is extra

CALTHORPE, Christopher   
Mary TODD      
19 Oct 1830 Horncastle, Lincolnshire

WILLIAM LAWRENCE CALTHORPE 
Christening:  23 OCT 1831   Mareham Le Fen, Lincoln
Father:  CHRISTOPHER CALTHORPE 
Mother:  MARY 

MARY ANNE CALTHORPE 
Christening:  03 FEB 1833   Mareham Le Fen, Lincoln
Buried 10 JUN 1834  Mareham Le Fen 
Father:  CHRISTOPHER CALTHORPE 
Mother:  MARY 

RICHARD CALTHORP 
Christening:  18 JAN 1835   Revesby, Lincoln
Father:  CHRISTOPHER CALTHORP 
Mother:  MARY 

CALTHORPE, Ann   
Christening Date:   3 Apr 1840 Bardney, Lincolnshire
Father:   Christopher CALTHORPE
Mother:   Mary

CALTHORP, John   
Christening Date:   26 Jun 1842 Bardney, Lincolnshire
Father:   Christopher CALTHORP
Mother:   Mary

1841 census HO107 627/1 folio 25 Page 7
Bardney  Lincolnshire 
Christopher Calthorp 35 Lincolnshire Ag lab
Mary Calthorp 25  Lincolnshire
William Calthorp 10  Lincolnshire
Richard Calthorp 7  Lincolnshire
Ann Calthorp 1  Lincolnshire

1851 census HO107 2098 folio 585
Langrick Ville  Lincolnshire 
Christopher Calthrop 49  Wood Enderby, Lincolnshire, Head  Married Lab
Mary Calthrop 39  Bucknell, Lincolnshire,  Wife Married 
William Calthrop 19  Marcham le Fen, Lincolnshire,  Son Lab

WO 97/591/100 JOHN CALTHORPE Born WORDENDEBY, Lincolnshire Served in 44th Foot Regiment; 69th Foot Regiment Discharged aged 28 1812-1840

Regards

Valda

[Calthorpe]

1841 census HO107 627/1 folio 25 Page 7
Bardney  Lincolnshire 
Christopher Calthorp 35 Lincolnshire Ag lab
Mary Calthorp 25  Lincolnshire
William Calthorp 10  Lincolnshire
Richard Calthorp 7  Lincolnshire
Ann Calthorp 1  Lincolnshire

1851 census HO107 2098 folio 585
Langrick Ville  Lincolnshire 
Christopher Calthrop 49  Wood Enderby, Lincolnshire, Head  Married Lab
Mary Calthrop 39  Bucknell, Lincolnshire,  Wife Married 
William Calthrop 19  Marcham le Fen, Lincolnshire,  Son Lab

WO 97/591/100 JOHN CALTHORPE Born WORDENDEBY, Lincolnshire Served in 44th Foot Regiment; 69th Foot Regiment Discharged aged 28 1812-1840

THANK YOU AGAIN!  I do have death dates for the two youngest children and Mary Anne - only Richard, William Lawrence, parents and girlfriend made it to Australia.
William Lawrence and his wife Rosanna Fielding, went out first.  A couple of years later Richard qualified as a Paid Assisted Immigrant, as his work skills were required in Aust.  William L paid for his parents and sister-in-laws passage (Harriet Fielding) whom so after, married Richard. 

The military record is new information.  I cannot fit him in the family thus far.

[Geoff E]

I think the Mary (100) Calthorpe was Mary Ann Stockhill (sic) (sp. etc).

Yes, of course ... it was the accelerated aging after 1851 that threw me!

[perilsofpauline1]

Hi Geoff, Hi Calthorpe!!
This is all wonderful information - I havent passed it on to my son yet, but I'm sure he will be delighted.
I see you are both online at the moment - do you want to go into the chat room, or mail one another personally?
Pauline

[perilsofpauline1]

Forgive my senior moment but on re reading your mail I see that it was a conversation about people I don't know!!!  I'm really sorry! Getting a bit carried away.
P

[Calthorpe]

She was obviously quite spritely in her old age, and loved attending Census Parties.  Presumably skilled in social situations, and loved visiting others.  She was always out!