Thanks again to everyone who helped me on this.
I have been at my aunty's today and exhausted all possible avenues that we currently have of information.
3 main things I would like to find : Patrick's birth details and then on the other side, Mary Anne Murphy's burial in Scotland. She died in abt1948 and also her parents.
Or any guidance on where to look. I have Ancestry, but I'm afraid I can't find anything concrete. A lot of people seem to have Mary Anne Smyth/Murphy dying in 1938 in Ireland but I know this isn't true as my auntie remembers her from when she was about 8 or 9 and dying in the 40s.